Shared suffering paradox! Utilitarianly worse, but somehow it clears the mind of "Grr im the only one; others are fine im not"!! This is very stupid!! Stupid pessimistic brain needing others to feel the same too due to darwinism, and the brain compares too much unnecessarily! It's always the winners that get told not to compare! Losers get shamed by parents! People are just mad at the winners for making losers jealous, even though it's their case and they did play well! Die!

Rather, it's like seeing "normal" - but what if the normal was total suffering all along!