Opposite effect to what you want often is more common.
e.g. I want to stop stress! End up more stressed
I want to detach! End up angry, because the process of detachment is physically contradictory
I want to sleep! End up not sleep. (this one is more so biological: sleep needs right times and the more you cant sleep the more your mind wanders, which this act itself drifts it further from sleep)
The classic one is to not think of a pink elephant.

Perhaps the solution is actual detachment, and recognition that the mind and reality are mostly uncontrollable, then you can put less pressure on your brain or reality to behave in specific ways.